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What time is THE right time?

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Last night, Dan and I were sitting on the couch, enjoying a little down time together while watching some tv and we just started chatting about life and plans. We have been together nearly seven years, and married for a little over three. We’ve gotten to the point where nearly every person has gone from asking us how married life is, to asking us when we are going to start a family. All this questioning makes us start to wonder and question ourselves.

When we got married, our dream was to travel first, be stable in our jobs, and be in a good place financially before we started a family. Honestly, when people say your life speeds up as you get older, they really weren’t kidding. These last three years have completely flown by, and I’m not quite sure where they went. While we have traveled some, and both gotten secure full time jobs, we are still feeling like it isn’t the right time.

When I got home last night, Dan’s parents asked us to walk through a house they were looking at to see what we thought. They want to sell their current house and find something a little newer, that’s bigger, and has a smaller yard to take care of. Walking through this gorgeous home and talking with the relator got us thinking about moving. We had toyed with the idea earlier this year, but decided we needed to wait till we had more equity in our current house, and had more finances paid off, basically it wasn’t the right time.

So what is the right time to make these major life changes? And do you ever really get to a place where it’s the perfect moment to do something? It’s like all these romantic movies that make everything look like it just happens perfectly every time, or wedding shows where when you put on the perfect dress you just know it. I never had that moment with my wedding dress, and our relationship wasn’t completely perfect, but at the end of the day even without it happening perfectly, I couldn’t ask for anything better.

Do you ever really know when the perfect moment is to start a family, or buy a bigger house, or travel the world? Do we sit around waiting for that time to come, or do we take a leap of faith and trust that with love, support, and stability we can get through even difficult times. I’m not writing this post because Dan and I plan on starting a family or selling our house tomorrow, or even in the next few months, but lately I find myself sitting and thinking about when the right time will be for a lot of important decisions. Once you leave college and enter the real world, there’s no textbook, course schedule, or road map to follow. You write your own story, and it’s scary to think about making the right decision. No matter what happens, I know we will meet every new adventure together, holding hands, and supporting each other. And while we will do our best to make those decisions at the right time, life isn’t perfect, and neither are we, so all we can do is do what feels right for us.