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It's My Wedding And I Can Do What I Want To

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

Since I loved sharing some of my wedding memories last Wednesday . . . I decided to do it again this week! One of the things I was shocked by during the planning of my wedding was how many decisions there were to make and how opinionated people got about those decisions. Growing up, whenever I would hear the song "Its my party I can cry if I want to"on the radio I would laugh and wonder why someone would feel so entitled just because it's there birthday. Fast forward to our wedding day, and the song finally made sense. There were lots of pieces to our wedding that made our special day fun and unique to us. People were constantly commenting on how they didn't understand some of our choices or why we did things a certain way. My response to them, if you don't want to come, it's less money I have to spend on your food! So instead of rambling on and on for this post, I wanted to share some of the parts of our wedding that were unique and different and empower fellow brides to do what you want! So be ready to be surprised, shocked, appalled, disgusted, empowered, and enchanted by the unique parts of our special day. 

Our wedding was on a Thursday:
We had a specific reason for making this decision. It was the same day as my grandparents and great-grandparent's wedding anniversary. In order to share that date with them, we would have to have the wedding on a Thursday. In an effort to make this easier for people, our ceremony was at 6:30 so people could come after work. Choosing a Thursday also meant that it was cheaper to rent the venue and some of the other rentals we used. All in all, this was probably the biggest talked about decision and detail of our entire day. Just a month ago, in the middle of my father in-law's funeral someone came up and introduced themselves and said "hi we haven't met because you invited us to your wedding but it was at that strange time". Um excuse me ma'am. Sorry it wasn't at the desired time for your calendar. Even the suit rental place used the day of the week as an excuse for why our tuxes weren't ready the day they said they would be. When asked why our order wasn't ready her response was "well most people don't get married on a Thursday"! Pretty sure that should make it easier to get what we want because there should be less demand! At the end of the day, we were so thankful to share our special day with other amazing people and we would do it all over again in a heartbeat! 

I was so thankful to have almost all of my aunts and uncles from both sides of my family there for our special day! 

Our ring bearer had sleeve tattoos: 
Yes you read that right, our ring bearer was a 32 year old friend of ours with tons of tattoos. It started out as a joke one night that he would be in our wedding and carry our rings down the isle, but we ended up loving the idea. I bought him a pillow to carry and he walked hand in hand with our 3 year old flower girl. Best. Idea. Ever!! 

We didn't serve dinner at our reception: 
Instead of feeding everyone a full meal, we gave people hors d'oeuvres, had a candy table, served cake, and had a s'mores station. We didn't want a sit down dinner where it would take up hours of time and keep people from mingling, dancing, and having a good time. We didn't have tables and chairs for every person there, in order to encourage people to be up and around talking with old and new friends. This created more of an upbeat fun atmosphere. All in all, I don't think anyone went away hungry!

Since our colors were pink and brown, we choose candy that matched those same colors. I was shocked at how much of the candy was gone and how much people liked this simple addition! 

Our cake had lots of different flavors & I bought it at a grocery store: 
I remember watching an episode of My Fair Wedding with David Tuttera, who freaked out at a bride who ordered her wedding cake from a grocery store. I guess he would have had a heart attack because I did the same thing, and my cake turned out perfect! There is a local grocery store that has an amazing bakery where I get all of my cakes for every occasion! When it came time to choose our wedding cake, we looked no further than that same bakery. Choosing the cake flavors was a little more difficult. We ended up choosing three different kinds. The top was carrot cake, the same kind of cake my parents had in their wedding cake. The middle was almond poppy seed with raspberry filling. And the bottom was Pink Champagne. The entire cake was frosted in white butter cream and decorated with intricate details that perfectly met what I was envisioning!! 

(and perfect for shoving in my new husband's face!) 

So after all my rambling and sharing more details from our special day, I guess the moral of the story is to choose what makes you happy. Make decisions based on what you want, not what other people want. This is your special day and it's supposed to be about the two of you! Its a day you will remember and cherish forever! Did you incorporate uniques ideas or things in to your wedding day? How did you make your day exactly what you wanted?


  1. I think I would have slapped the person that told me my wedding was at a strange time! Probably better off she didn't come ;) Just kidding. But seriously. :)

  2. Ah I think these are all awesome ideas. My mom has been getting up in arms because I don't want a fancy traditional wedding in some mansion. Its just not "us" and its crazy how some people get so upset over something that isn't even theirs...

    glad other people have had these issues and I'm not alone :)

  3. I LOVE how you did your wedding. That cake is beautiful!!!! ... & your ring bearer?? That's the BEST!!! Your wedding sounds like it was perfectly YOU :)

  4. I love the candy bar idea and your cakes was beautiful

  5. This sounds like a wedding I would have loved!!!! Good for you, doing what YOU wanted to!

  6. I couldn't agree more! You only get one wedding (most times) and it should be exactly how you want! If you want pink and purple poka dots then so be it!!

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