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A little reminder to be happy

Friday, March 21, 2014

I know I'm breaking all the blogging rules and posting twice today, but I came across a little reminder this morning that I needed to help change my mood and I decided I wanted to share it with all of you.

I think if we were honest with ourselves there are certain things that we each need to be reminded of from time to time. Whether that's living in the moment, being thankful for what you have, or telling the people you love how much they mean to you, there are things we each need an occasional reminder of. For me, the last few days I have definitely been in that place where a little reminder can't hurt. So it was perfect timing when I came across this . . .


I haven't said much about some of the things Dan and I have been going through lately on this here blog, but in order for all of this to make sense I'll explain a little. For the last couple years we have been seriously considering moving in to a larger house. While what we have works fine for us for now, we know that when we start a family, we are going to want a bit more room. Both of us want to find a home that we can grow in to, raise our family in, and make our home for many years. After sitting down and taking a look at it all, there are some things we need to do before we can make that happen. It's not impossible, but it will just take time.

The emotional part of me felt instantly crushed. I have a tendency to build everything up in my mind and get so excited about it before it's all said and done, that I sometimes create situations where I'm bound to be disappointed. I left our meeting after discussing it all a bit heartbroken and defeated. Instead of feeling that way, I honestly should feel optimistic. Our house prices are going up and it's making it more and more feasible to make that move. But instead I had already been picking out colors, layouts, backsplashes, and home decor in my head for a house I haven't even laid eyes on! Really helpful Libby!

It can be difficult to feel like something you want so badly is just out of reach, especially when it feels like everyone around you is getting what you want. While we can definitely get there, it's just going to take some time. Both Dan and I have a tendency to rush into things and when we want something, we want it now, not in 6 months, or even 6 weeks. This is something we are constantly working on. It doesn't have to happen overnight! And just because other people are doing it, doesn't mean we have to. (Gosh I feel like I sound like my mom)

We've been through a lot these past few months, loosing Dan's Dad and having family members who are close to us that are sick. I need to not loose sight of what's important. I have an amazing husband, a job that pays well, great friends and family, and more love from all of them than I could ever ask for. I need to stop comparing myself to others and be happy with what I have right now. It's easy to look in on someone else's life from the outside and think it's perfect, when it might not be the reality. All you can do is be thankful for what you have today and work towards the possibilities of tomorrow. It doesn't matter how big our house is, what cars we drive, or what "stuff" we have, as long as I have the important people in my life . . . and this blog! What's something you need to remind yourself of?

2 comments :

  1. Hey, I saw that quote you posted on IG Friday and immediately took a screenshot on my phone so I could share it in my weekend recap blog post (which I did, and linked back to your IG account). It is SO true and something that is so easy to lose sight of too. I keep my personal life personal so I won't expand, but I know the feeling of mourning the loss of something that never existed. I think it's the hardest thing for other people to understand because it's the loss of something that never really was. Others can easily say "whats the big deal? you didn't even sell your house or pick out the new one yet" but you still have to mourn the loss of having it now. I think some people (like me!) need time to process changes in expectations.
    Good luck, I hope the weekend helped brighten up your mood :) *hugs*

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