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To Share or Not To Share

Thursday, May 15, 2014


I've been coming to this blog nearly every day for almost a year now. And I could count on two hands how many people I've personally talked to in my everyday life about this space of mine. That doesn't mean that they haven't found it through my super so not sneaky linkage of all my social media accounts to this place, but I still haven't personally told many people. But yet, I long for it to be something bigger, to continue to grow, and to keep coming back her for a long time. I love what this space does. It gives me somewhere to share my thoughts, and has put me in touch with some amazing ladies! And clearly if I haven't made new accounts on instagram, pinterest or twitter for only my blog stuff, then I probably secretly want my friends to know about it right?!? I'm just not so sure.

I've always been a people pleaser. I like to make other's happy, and in turn, I'm constantly worrying about what others think. I try to keep up with all the latest fashions so I don't stick out too much. I want to fit in, and I strive to be liked by others. I think part of that comes from being the new kid. When I was 15 I moved from Upstate New York to Oregon. Being the new kid, all I wanted was to make friends and fit in, and I think that sort of stuck. But if I'm constantly trying fitting in, am I ever really truly being myself? This blog brings me so much happiness and is such an awesome outlet for me.

My husband says he can just tell when I truly love something because he can see it in my smile when I talk about it, and that's how I am with this blog. And I want more than anything to turn this blog into something more. I'm a dreamer and hope to continue to grow and share my life. I love the people I've met and the stories I've heard. I want to be proud of this space and be able to share it with other's. But I'm scared. Scared of what people will think, scared of what people will say, afraid that it will change some of my friendships, and nervous about opening myself up to criticism.

But is that what am I really worried about? What could possibly happen if I woke up tomorrow and decided I wanted to not worry about people finding out and I wanted to use all my social media accounts to their full potential? What is it I'm really scared of?

So how long after you started your blog did you share it with your friends and family? How did you get passed being scared of what other people think?

7 comments :

  1. I totally understand where you're coming from! It was over a year before I really started 'putting' my blog out there for my friends and family to see. I first started on instagram referencing my post and throwing in a couple hashtags. Right away I got a couple responses like "oh you're blogging now?" Well, no not really. I've been doing it a while, I just didn't feel compelled to share. The tipping point for me was a post that I was really proud to (yet, was really hard for me personally) write. I decided on a whim that it would be the entry I shared on my personal facebook page. I was pleasantly surprised by the positive feedback I received. I'm sure you will be too!

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  2. I wanted to get the hang of it first and make sure I liked it, so it was about 1 month before I really told my friends and family. I switched my social media sites over about 2-3 months in maybe. I love my blog and it's something I'm very passionate about, I wanted to share it with them all. I've never really thought about what they may think. Go for it girl :) Now, if it was a place that you didn't want people to come to, then that'd be a little different. But if this is your passion and you want to share it with people, do not let anyone else deter you from doing so!

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  3. I told my immediate family a month or so after I started blogging. A few months later I created a Facebook page for my blog, and my mom used it to out me by sharing it to her personal page. She didn't do it on purpose, as she had no idea that I wanted to keep it a secret! I was mortified at first, but now I've come around to the idea of friends and family reading my blog. the support I've received from so many friends and family members made it all worth it!

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  4. Honestly? I had a blog in college and I overshared. So now I know the boundary. I learned from messing up. But now I ask myself questions like...does this involve other people? How would they feel? Does this affect how I would look to future employeers (health stuff)?

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  5. This is a tough struggle. I've only told 3 people about my blog - my hubby, brother, and BFF - and none of them read it consistently. But I still watch my step and write like anyone might find it, from family to strangers. I think of it as a place to share things I'd tell someone I've only met once. I keep private things for my non-existing diary under my pillow ;) But to each their own!

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  6. I think a lot of bloggers struggle with this. I have had my blog for 8 months now and I've only mentioned it to maybe 3 people and when they ask me for the name/link, I refuse to give it to them. I also wonder what they'd think and if they'd criticize me and my writing. I do plan to tell them, I'm just not sure when :\

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  7. I feel the same exact way....for some reason it's much easier for me to have strangers follow my blog than it is for my friends. I actually cringe when they say they found my blog. I'm not ashamed at all, but it's almost like I love the freedom of not wirrying what others may think of it. It's my own little space. It's ridiculous to feel that way Bc I know my friends don't judge me....quite the opposite. They'd be so supportive. But like you said, if it's on social media it's only a matter of time. Perhaps it'll be best when they all know....no more hiding!

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