Adoption is something I grew up knowing and that I grew up thinking was the norm. A friend once asked me how old I was when my parents told me that I was adopted, and I honestly couldn't come up with an answer. I guess it's like anything else you're used to. Unless you find out there's a different way to do something, you assume that everyone does it your way. The same goes for adoption. I thought that's how everyone built their family. Wouldn't family tree projects be even more interesting and difficult to follow if that was the case?
I can remember the day I was officially adopted at a little over 2 years old and I remember going through the process to adopt my brother when I was 4. I love that it is a part of my story and a part of my memories.
Our story, like everyone else's is different. It wasn't a simple sign papers and be done with it, it was more complicated for my parents and my birth parents than that. But it's just that, it's our story. I've never been more thankful or amazed by my parents until I became one. Once I had my daughter in my arms, all the struggles and trials my parents went though to build their family resonated with me even more.
When I made the decision to try to find my birth parents and meet them, it wasn't because I didn't love my parents or I wanted new ones, I just always wondered about my biological past and family history. I'm closer to my parents than most people I know, and have the type of relationship where we are family but also best friends. I feel so blessed to have the greatest parents and also be able to have a relationship with my birth parents. And as my family grows, so does my extended one, which just means more people to share our happiness and photos of Harper with.
I understand adoption isn't for everyone and not all stories will have the happy endings our family has, but I'm thankful it is a part of our story and who I am. I look forward to teaching Harper about how our family was made, and maybe one day make adoption part of Dan & my story.
If your interested in reading any more about our story, check out some of my other adoption posts:
Finding Answers Part 1
Finding Answers Part 2
Ridiculous Adoption Questions & Answers