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Ten Things I've Learned Since Becoming A Mom

Tuesday, April 12, 2016

10 Things I've Learned From Becoming A New Mom
One: I need my alone time. This is something I truly never realized until both Dan and I were home a lot and constantly had visitors. You spend a lot more time at home with a newborn, or at least we did, and this was a huge adjustment for us. When you add the visitors and lots of time the three of you to breastfeeding every two hours, I just needed some time by myself. Whether that was just going in our room and laying down for a bit or taking a short bath, the time alone helped me feel more refreshed for the rest of the day.

Two: Going grocery shopping alone can feel like a vacation: I never really realized how great grocery shopping alone could feel until having a baby. Typically I would avoid the grocery story on a Sunday afternoon like the plague. Now I'm usually the first to volunteer to take a solo trip to pick up some groceries and be able to wander the isles at my leisure.

Three: I don't need 10 hours of sleep a night, although I'd like it! Before having children, I would be the first to tell you how much I love and need my sleep. And while I still feel absolutely the same, I have learned that I can function on far less than I used to.

Four: Spit, dirty diapers, and puke are totally different when your child does them. I don't really have any great explanation as to why this is, but it just is. For whatever reason it's less gross and more tolerable with your own child. Maybe it's the fact that it happens so frequently, it forces you to get over any weird aversions rather quickly.

Five: You can read all the books, blog posts or handouts in the world, but you end up figuring out a plan that works best for you and your child. What might work for other parents, may not work for your child. Instead of constantly beating myself up over Harper not reacting to certain things we tried, we just figured out what did work and went from there. There is so much to learn as a new parent, and for us it was important not to stress over little things and not be too tough on ourselves.

Six: Your body is truly not the same. (maybe it will be one day, but I sorta doubt it) My pre pregnancy pants all fit, but nothing fits the same.

Seven: Your life can become even more scheduled and routine, and you are afraid to divert from that schedule/routine. I know when nap time and meal time is constantly and will change plans around so that we don't miss or interrupt either of those things.

Eight: You can never buy the smaller iPhone again - the pictures multiply daily! I have such a hard time going through my phone and finding photos I don't mind parting with to free up more space. I want them all and don't want to forget any stage!!

Nine: It can be the most exhausting and crazy day, but as soon as she's asleep in her bedroom you miss her! I literally watch her on the monitor and just want to go get her and snuggle her, even if I'm completely exhausted!

Ten: Loving your child is so different than any other kind of love! It's unconditional. No matter how frustrated I feel or tired and emotional I get, I will love her no matter what!


  1. I agree with so many of these. Grocery shopping by myself is a total vacation. Also, dirty diapers used to gross me out and then when it is your kids it is totally normal and you talk about when they had a dirty diaper and how often and what consistency it was like in normal day to day conversation. Too funny!

  2. This is such a wonderful post! I totally agree!! I basically move mountains so my husband and I can each have our alone time. He plays basketball once a week with friends and I find times daily (during nap time mostly) that I can put all my to-do's down and do something for me. I'm the same with I fit in my pre-pregnancy pants but they really do for differently. This is still something I'm trying to work through. I never had curves before I had my daughter so it's a new adjustment. My husband has been really helpful through all my complaining though ;) I loved this post! So great!

  3. #8 would totally be me if I had a baby :) Sounds like you've already got this Mom thing down!!

  4. I am not a mom but you have written this post so beautifully, really shows how much life changes after you have a kid but everything seems to be worth it just to watch that pretty face! Looks like you are doing a great job, you got this mama! LOL @grocery shopping alone feeling like a vacation ;)
    xx, Kusum | www.sveeteskapes.com

  5. I LOVE your top 10 list and I agree very much!! Great post!
    I also wrote my top 10 over at my blog if you would like to read it and show some love, I would greatly appreciate it! :)

  6. This is a great list. I never get much sleep anymore, I figure this is the way it always will be! I love shopping alone! Grocery shopping is something I truly look forward to each week. I get my coffee and take my time.